Anger Therapy in Amsterdam
Anger is often treated as something to control, reduce, or get rid of. But anger is not the problem. Unseen, unheard anger is.
Reframing anger
Anger is one of our basic human emotions. It shows us:
what matters
where a boundary is crossed
what we need
what we stand for
Without anger, there is no movement. The word aggression comes from the Latin ad gredere, to move toward.
Anger, at its core, is movement.
Anger wants to be received.
The way you experience problems with anger today didn’t come out of nowhere.
It was shaped by experiences in your environment.
Maybe:
It wasn’t safe to express anger
You were ignored or dismissed when you did
You were met with even more anger
You learned to hold it in, or disconnect from it
And so the energy didn’t disappear, it stayed.
Sometimes as:
tension
frustration
self-doubt
resentment
silence
uncontrollable outbursts that leave you feeling guilty.
How anger shows up now
Anger often shows up in relationships.
It can look like:
holding things in until they build up
difficulty expressing what you need
shutting down or pulling away
feeling misunderstood or not heard
reacting more intensely than you’d like
Anger wants to be received.
When it isn’t, it doesn’t disappear, it finds another way. Usually your body will express it.
How I work with anger
In our sessions, we look at how anger is being expressed and what it organises.
We get curious about it.
We explore:
what your anger is responding to
how it shows up in your body
what it wants to move toward
what it does to our contact, what does it organise?
Together, we create space for your anger to be expressed & heard in a way that is aware, grounded, and connected.
Anger that you are aware of, is easier to express. And easier to receive by others.
Reviews.
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I felt at home from our very first conversation. You really listened to me, saw me. I always felt seen and heard in my questions and my search. I find you very sensitive, super accurate in tuning in without disappearing yourself. I found it very supportive that you allowed yourself to be visibly affected.
— Irene.
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Rinske is very knowledgeable in her approach and knows how to put you at ease in confrontational conversations. A session with Rinske feels like a conversation with a very good friend who also dares to ask the right questions to help you with your process of self-reflection.
— Ditha.
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After a difficult period, I ended up at Rinske's practice. I had no previous experience with any form of therapy, but Rinske made sure that wasn't a problem at all. She was a good listener and we had some great conversations. Thank you, Rinske!
— Sander
Ready to get started?
If you’re struggling with anger — whether it feels too much, too little, or hard to access — you’re welcome to reach out.